The Sex and Psychology Podcast

December 3, 2024

Episode 350: The Rise of Sugar Dating

Sugar dating typically involves an older, wealthy person who financially supports a younger, attractive partner in exchange for companionship and intimacy, and sometimes sex. In today’s episode, we’re going to explore the growing popularity of sugar dating and the unique grey area that it occupies in between traditional dating and sex work. My guest is Dr. Bernadette Barton, a Professor of Sociology and the Director of Gender Studies at Morehead State University. Barton is co-editor of the new book Sex Work Today: Erotic Labor in the 21st Century. Her research and teaching explore contemporary issues of gender, sexuality, religion, culture, happiness, and the sex industry. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What are some common examples of sugaring arrangements?
How is sugar dating different from traditional dating?
Is sugar dating sex work?
What's the legal status of sugar dating?
Who holds the power in sugar dating relationships?

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Episode 350: The Rise of Sugar Dating

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November 29, 2024

Episode 349: What Movies Get Right (And Wrong) About Relationships

Romantic comedies are one of the most popular film genres. But how accurate are rom-coms in the way they portray sex, love, and relationships? My guests today are the hosts of a new podcast that uses the science of relationships to separate fact from fiction in some of the biggest rom-coms of all time. We’re going to explore some of the things that Hollywood gets right and wrong in the way they depict relationships. I am joined by Dr. Paul Eastwick and Dr. Eli Finkel. Dr. Eastwick is a Professor at the University of California, Davis, where he studies romantic attraction and close relationships. Dr. Finkel is a professor at Northwestern University and author of the bestselling book The All-Or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work, which we discussed back in Episode 45. Together, they co-host the Love Factually podcast. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

In movies, partners often meet as strangers and fall in love. Is this how relationships typically start in real life?
Falling in love at first sight is a common theme in rom-coms. But what does the science say about this?
Opposites often attract on screen, but is that also true IRL?
What are some things films often get wrong about sex?
Is it necessarily a bad thing if rom coms aren't always accurate?

You can check out the Love Factually podcast website to learn and listen more. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 349: What Movies Get Right (And Wrong) About Relationships

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November 26, 2024

Episode 348: How To Stay Sexually Healthy Your Entire Life

Our sexuality is something that evolves and changes over time. However, traditional sex education does a poor job of preparing us for those changes. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about how to stay sexually healthy for your entire life. We’re going to explore what people at different stages of life need to know, why maintaining sexual health is so important, tips for navigating low sexual desire, and so much more. I am joined once again by Dr. Evelin Dacker, who is the creator of the STARS framework for sexual communication, which we discussed in depth in the last episode. She is a physician who specializes in sexual wellness, menopause and hormones, and vitality throughout life. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What are the key things young adults should know about staying sexually healthy?
How can we effectively communicate with our partners about sexual difficulties when they arise?
What do mid-life and older adults need to know about maintaining a healthy sex life?
How do you maintain a healthy sex life when your sexual desire (or your partner's desire) declines?
How do you talk to your doctor about sex?

You can check out Evelin's website to learn more about the STARS method and follow her on the socials @sexmeddoc. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 348: How To Stay Sexually Healthy Your Entire Life

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November 22, 2024

Episode 347: How To Improve Your Sexual Communication Skills

Most of us recognize how important sexual communication is, yet we still struggle with it. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss a practical framework for improving your sexual communication skills. It’s called the STARS method. Using this technique will help you and your partner(s) to better understand each other and lay the groundwork for hot and healthy intimate encounters. My guest is Dr. Evelin Dacker, the creator of the STARS method. She is a physician who specializes in sexual wellness, menopause and hormones, and vitality throughout life. Her unique approach to health incorporates pleasure as an important aspect for healing trauma and illness. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What does STARS stand for? What are the key things we should be discussing with our partners?
How can we go about discovering our turn-ons and communicating them effectively?
How do you tell your partner about the things you don't want and communicate your boundaries?
How do you make discussions about sexual health and STIs easier?
Why is it important to communicate your relationship intentions, and how do you do this?

You can check out Evelin's website to learn more about the STARS method and follow her on the socials @sexmeddoc. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Head over to paired.com/justin to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. ***

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Episode 347: How To Improve Your Sexual Communication Skills

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November 19, 2024

Episode 346: What You Don’t Know About the Clitoris

The clitoris is a piece of anatomy that has repeatedly been discovered, described, and forgotten. In today's show, we're going to dive into the history of the clitoris and what you need to know about it. We'll also explore whether there’s really a difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms, the surprising role of testosterone in clitoral health, and how recent research has completely changed our understanding of clitoral anatomy. I am joined once again by Dr. Maria Uloko, a board certified urologist specializing in comprehensive sexual health, reconstruction, and prosthesis. She is the CEO of MUMD Sexual Medicine Consulting and the founder of VULVAi, an innovative patient advocacy tool that employs AI to aid patients grappling with vulvovaginal issues. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

When did people first start recognizing the importance of the clitoris in female sexual pleasure?
Why did it take so long for us to develop a basic understanding of clitoral anatomy?
How many nerve ending are in the clitoris?
How can a better understanding of clitoral anatomy help improve women's sexual health and pleasure?
Are there really different "types" of female orgasm?

You can check out Maria's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 346: What You Don't Know About the Clitoris

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November 15, 2024

Episode 345: Secrets of the Vulva

The vulva is one of the most misunderstood pieces of sexual anatomy. So in today’s show, we’re going to talk about what you don’t know about the vulva. Among other things, we’ll discuss the lifespan of the vulva, the importance of maintaining vulvar health, and how sex education is failing us all when it comes to understanding the vulva. My guest is Dr. Maria Uloko, a board certified urologist specializing in comprehensive sexual health, reconstruction, and prosthesis. She is the CEO of MUMD Sexual Medicine Consulting and the founder of VULVAi, an innovative patient advocacy tool that employs AI to aid patients grappling with vulvovaginal issues. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What is the difference between the vulva and the vagina?
Are doctors learning enough about the vulva?
How does the vulva evolve and change with age?
How can paying attention to vulvar health improve overall wellbeing?
How do you maintain a happy and healthy vulva?

You can check out Maria's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Episode 345: Secrets of the Vulva

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November 12, 2024

Episode 344: The Surprising History of Kink, Porn, and Fetishes

For as long as humans have been having sex, they’ve been having kinky sex. So let's talk about our kinky history and how it can help us to better understand sexuality today. In this episode, we’re going to explore the roots of a number of popular fetishes, including leather, nylon, and feet. We’re also going to talk about the history of porn, including the rise of animated porn in popular culture. I am joined once again by Esmé Louise James, who is best known for her Kinky History podcast and social media series which has amassed nearly 3 million followers. She is author of the new book Kinky History: A Rollicking Journey Through Our Sexual Past, Present, and Future. Some of the specific topics we discuss in this episode include:

How did leather and nylon come to be associated with sex in the first place?
When and why did foot fetishes start to become popular?
When did humans start making porn?
Historically, why was porn often used for political purposes?
When did cartoon/animated porn begin to rise in popularity?

You can check out Esmé's website to learn more about her work and follow her on the socials @esme.louisee. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 344: The Surprising History of Kink, Porn, and Fetishes

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November 8, 2024

Episode 343: The Fascinating History Of Sex Toys

Sex toys are far from a modern invention. Humans have actually been making them for millennia! So let's dive into the fascinating history of sex toys. In today's show, we’ll tell you about the oldest dildo ever discovered, the true story behind the invention of the vibrator, and so much more. I am joined by Esmé Louise James, who is best known for her Kinky History podcast and social media series which has amassed nearly 3 million followers. She is author of the new book Kinky History: A Rollicking Journey Through Our Sexual Past, Present, and Future. Some of the specific topics we discuss in this episode include:

How long have humans been using sex toys?
When did people start mass-producing dildos?
When was the vibrator invented, and why were the first versions geared toward men?
When were cock rings first developed and what were they like?
What did people use for contraception before condoms or birth control pills existed?

You can check out Esmé's website to learn more about her work and follow her on the socials @esme.louisee. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 343: The Fascinating History Of Sex Toys

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November 5, 2024

Episode 342: The Secret To Cultivating Passion

How do you create a lasting connection with a partner and sustain passion in a relationship over time? In today's show, we're going to discuss the secrets you need to know for cultivating hotter and healthier sex lives. By following these tips, you can learn to have the kind of sex that we all really want to be having, which is where it feels almost effortless because you’re totally in synch with your partner. I am joined once again by Dr. Emily Jamea, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist based in Houston, Texas. Dr. Jamea hosts the popular Love & Libido Podcast and is author of the new book Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Some of the specific topics we discuss include:

Why is curiosity an important element of great sex?
How do you build up the courage to try something new if that sounds a little scary or stressful to you?
How can you learn to become more adaptable in the bedroom?
Why is vulnerability important for having great sex?
What is attunement, and how can we become more attuned to our partners during sex?

You can check out Emily's website to learn more about her work and follow her on the socials at @DrEmilyJamea. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 342: The Secret To Cultivating Passion

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November 1, 2024

Episode 341: How To Stop Feeling Distracted During Sex

One of the most common sex problems people report today is that they can’t seem to clear their mind during sex. They find themselves distracted or they're multi-tasking, and this is getting in the way of their pleasure. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss why this problem is on the rise and what we can do about it. Specifically, we’re going to learn how to have embodied sex, which is the kind of sex that allows us to get out of our heads and into the moment. I am joined by Dr. Emily Jamea, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist based in Houston, Texas. Dr. Jamea hosts the popular Love & Libido Podcast and is author of the new book Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Some of the specific topics we discuss include:

How is our modern world making it harder for us to be present during sex?
What is a "flow state," and why is this an important element of good sex?
How can we learn to become more embodied during sex?
What are some everyday ways to practice embodiment?
How can we leverage the power of touch to enhance sex and relationships?

You can check out Emily's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Episode 341: How To Stop Feeling Distracted During Sex

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October 29, 2024

Episode 340: Is Social Media Ruining Dating?

Social media has permeated many aspects of our lives, including our intimate lives. In today's show, we’re going to discuss the good, bad, and ugly of how social media has changed dating. Some of the topics we explore include how social media can stoke relationship insecurity and undermine authentic connection, as well as why social media is increasingly a terrible place to learn about relationships. We'll also consider tips for using social media in healthier ways. I am joined once again by Dr. Nicole McNichols an Associate Teaching Professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Washington. Nicole is the co-author of the textbook “Human Sexuality In A Diverse Society" and author of the forthcoming book “You Could Be Having Better Sex.” Some of the specific topics we discuss in this episode include:

How can social media increase uncertainty about whether someone is really interested in you?
How is the fact that people are constantly posting private details of their lives changing the way we're approaching dating?
When do social media interactions cross the line into cheating?
Are there any ways that social media can be good for relationships?
How can we use social media in a more mindful way?

You can learn more about Nicole's work on her website, and be sure to check out her videos on TikTok as well. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 340: Is Social Media Ruining Dating?

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October 25, 2024

Episode 339: How Gen Z Is Redefining Sex and Relationships

What do young adults today want from sex and relationships? And how is this different compared to generations past? To answer these questions, we're going to dive into The State of Dating Report, a collaborative scientific analysis from the Kinsey Institute and Feeld, the dating app for the curious. We're going to discuss why younger adults are having less sex overall but more kinky sex, how preferences for different types of relationships vary across generations, and more. I am joined by Dr. Nicole McNichols an Associate Teaching Professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Washington. Nicole is the co-author of the textbook “Human Sexuality In A Diverse Society" and author of the forthcoming book “You Could Be Having Better Sex.” Some of the specific topics we discuss in this episode include:

Why Gen Z is having less sex and fewer relationships compared to generations past.
Why younger adults are more interested in monogamy than older adults.
Why kinky sex is on the rise in Gen Z.
How the sexual fantasies of younger and older adults compare.
Why rates of LGBTQ+ identification are rising among young adults.

You can learn more about Nicole's work on her website, and be sure to check out her videos on TikTok as well. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 339: How Gen Z Is Redefining Sex and Relationships

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October 22, 2024

Episode 338: The Science of Libido, Orgasm, and Desire (Listener Questions)

In today’s show, we're answering more of your sex questions! This is our third dive into some of the questions that have come through our listener voicemail. I’m going to answer three of them that I thought were super interesting.

Our first question is about whether libido is genetically determined, so we’ll look at what the science says about the degree to which genetics control our sexual desire.
The second question deals with a male listener who has difficulty reaching orgasm, so we’ll talk about tips for managing that.
Finally, a listener asked about how to boost sexual desire in post-menopausal women, so we’ll explore what you need to know about that with an assist from Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, a practicing gynecologist and a North American Menopause Society Certified Clinician. Dr. Minkin was a previous guest on episode 334: How To Have a Happy Vagina.

If you have questions you’d like to have answered on the show, you can send me a podcast voicemail of your own at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. You can do it from your computer or from your phone, so keep sending those questions in! *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 338: The Science of Libido, Orgasm, and Desire (Listener Questions)

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October 18, 2024

Episode 337: Understanding Women’s Sexual Desire (Essential Listen)

Sexual desire is complex. Scientists can't even agree on a definition of it, let alone whether and how it is distinct from arousal. In today's show, we’re going to revisit one of my favorite conversations of all time on the show, which offers a deep dive into the science behind women's sexual desire. Some of the topics we'll discuss include how to treat problems with low desire, why monogamy is so hard on desire, as well as why wanting to be wanted is so vital to feeling desire. My guest is Dr. Marta Meana, a Professor of Psychology at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. The author of numerous academic publications and two books, her research has focused on genital pain in women, as well as female sexual desire. Some of the topics we explore include:

Diversity in how sexual desire is experienced.
Why long-term monogamy is hard on sexual desire for everyone, but especially for women.
Whether it's possible to maintain both intense intimacy and intense passion at the same time.
Why women are more likely than men to see themselves as the object of desire in their fantasies.
How having more erotic self-focus can benefit women's sex lives.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Head over to paired.com/justin to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. ***

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Episode 337: Understanding Women's Sexual Desire (Essential Listen)

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October 15, 2024

Episode 336: Not Having Sex Is The Latest Sex Trend

A growing number of people seem to be hitting the pause button on their sex lives, which is why terms like “volcel” (short for voluntary celibacy) and “boysober” are trending on social media. So what’s this all about? Why is not having sex the hot new sex trend? Let’s talk about it. In today’s show, we’re going to explore the rise of voluntary celibacy and what you need to know about it. I am joined once again by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, an award-winning Associate Professor at Emory University’s Rollins School of Public Health, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. With over 70 published articles, Dr. Hargons has made substantial contributions to the field. Her debut book titled Good Sex will be published in February 2025. Some of the specific topics we discuss in this episode include:

What does it really mean to be voluntarily celibate?
Why might someone choose to take a break from sex for a while?
Why does voluntary celibacy seem to be more popular among women than men?
What are the potential benefits and challenges of celibacy?
If you're taking a break from sex, how can you make the most of it?

You can check out Candice's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 336: Not Having Sex Is The Latest Sex Trend

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October 11, 2024

Episode 335: How To Have Good Sex

If you had to define "good sex" in just three words, what would they be? In today’s show, we’re going to talk about the key things that come to mind when people are asked this question. There are 20 common responses to this, which constitute the main ingredients of the kind of sex we all want to be having. We’re going to dive into some of those ingredients and talk about tips for how to incorporate them into your sex life so that you can experience more pleasure, connectedness, and fun in the bedroom. My guest is Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, an award-winning Associate Professor at Emory University’s Rollins School of Public Health, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. With over 70 published articles, Dr. Hargons has made substantial contributions to the field. Her debut book titled Good Sex will be published in February 2025. Some of the specific topics we discuss include:

Why is it useful to think about sex as being akin to cooking?
What are some of the key ingredients, seasonings, and spices that make for good sex?
How can we make sex fun again?
How can we experience more connectedness to ourselves during sex?
How can we get better at communicating about sex?

You can check out Candice's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 335: How To Have Good Sex

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October 8, 2024

Episode 334: How To Have A Happy Vagina

Many women don’t know what they really need to know about maintaining good vaginal health, which leads some of them to turn to products and practices that might do more harm than good. So in today's show, we're going to discuss how to have a happy and healthy vagina. Specifically, we'll explore how your lifestyle impacts your vaginal health, how to maintain the proper pH balance for your vagina, tips for dealing with vaginal dryness, what you need to know about feminine hygiene products, and more. My guest today is Mary Jane Minkin, a practicing gynecologist and a North American Menopause Society Certified Clinician. She has taught at Yale School of Medicine for more than 41 years, and is a clinical professor of obstetrics, gynecology and reproductive sciences. Some of the specific topics we discuss include:

What are some common lifestyle factors that can impact vaginal health?
How would someone know if their vaginal pH balance was out of whack?
How do vaginal hygiene products impact vaginal health?
What causes vaginal dryness, and what are some practical ways of dealing with this for both younger and older women?
How do you choose the contraceptive that's right for you and your body?

You can check out Dr. Minkin's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 334: How To Have A Happy Vagina

00:00 / 37:03

October 4, 2024

Episode 333: What It’s Like To Have Sex On Psychedelics

Psychedelic use is at an all-time high among young adults. These drugs are used for many purposes, but often for sex. So let's talk about "trippy" sex. In this episode, we’re going to discuss the sexual effects of several common psychedelics, the potential benefits and risks of these drugs, and what people who wish to combine sex and substances need to know in terms of having safer and more pleasurable experiences. I am joined once again by Ashley Manta, an award-winning sex educator and certified sexologist. She has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual brand, which has also expanded to include psychedelics. She is co-author of the book The CBD Solution: Sex. Some of the specific topics we discuss in this episode include:

How does MDMA/ecstasy affect people's sexual experiences?
What are the sexual effects of psilocybin and ketamine?
Why do different people experience different effects from psychedelics?
How do psychedelics compare to alcohol in terms of their sexual impact?
What conversations should you have with a partner before combing drugs and sex?

You can check out Ashley's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 333: What It's Like To Have Sex On Psychedelics

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October 1, 2024

Episode 332: How Cannabis Affects Sex

A lot of people consume cannabis prior to sexual activity. But how exactly does cannabis affect sex, and what do you need to know about it? In today's show, we’re going to dive into what the research says about how cannabis affects men’s and women’s sexual function and performance, the problems with a lot of the research on sex and cannabis, why cannabis affects different people in different ways, how the sexual effects of marijuana and CBD compare, and more. My guest today is Ashley Manta, an award-winning sex educator and certified sexologist. She has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual brand, which has also expanded to include psychedelics. She is co-author of the book The CBD Solution: Sex. Some of the specific topics we discuss in this episode include:

What is the endocannabinoid system, and what is its purpose is in the body?
What are the most common sexual effects of cannabis use?
How does cannabis affect male and female sexual function?
Why is there so much individual variability in the effects of cannabis on the body?
How are CBD and THC similar or different in terms of sexual effects?

You can check out Ashley's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Are you looking for a space that celebrates diverse perspectives, explores new frontiers and brings all of your favorite people together? The Annual Sexological Conference hosted by Sexual Health Alliance is where sexuality leaders gather. Get your ticket to be inspired, educated, and empowered. Head over to SexualHealthAlliance.com, select the Annual Sexological Conference page and save your spot today! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 332: How Cannabis Affects Sex

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September 27, 2024

Episode 331: The Surprising Intimacy of Bromances

“Bromance” is a term that is often used to describe close friendships between men. These relationships contain elements of emotional intimacy, but physical intimacy may occur as well, such as cuddling. Sometimes there’s even a sexual component, such as when two male friends participate in a threesome together. In today's show, we're going to discuss the psychology behind bromances. We’ll also talk about why a lot of men struggle when it comes to being vulnerable with their friends. I am joined once again by Mark McCormack, a Professor of Sociology at Aston University. His research examines how social trends related to gender and sexuality map onto everyday experiences of individuals. To date, he has published more than 80 scientific works. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What does it really mean to have a bromance? What do these relationships look like?
Why do a lot of heterosexual men find it difficult to open up to their male friends?
How common is physical intimacy in bromances?
What are bromances like among men who identify as something other than heterosexual?

You can click here to connect with Mark on Twitter/X. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 331: The Surprising Intimacy of Bromances

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September 24, 2024

Episode 330: The Science of Kink

What does it really mean to be “kinky?” It can be difficult to say because kink is a subjective term that means different things to different people. Kink can also be a fantasy, a practice, or even an identity. It's time for a new way of thinking about kink that can capture all of this complexity. In today's show, we're going to explore the brand new Kink Orientation Scale, a scientific quiz designed to measure how kinky a given person is in a comprehensive way. My guest is Mark McCormack, a Professor of Sociology at Aston University. His research examines how social trends related to gender and sexuality map onto everyday experiences of individuals. To date, he has published more than 80 scientific works. Some of the specific topics we discuss in this episode include:

What does it mean to have a "kink orientation?"
Is kink itself a sexual orientation?
What are the five different components that make up a kink orientation?
Why is it important to think about kink as running along a continuum instead of being a binary thing (i.e., kinky vs. vanilla)?

You can click here to take the Kink Orientation Quiz for yourself. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Are you looking for a space that celebrates diverse perspectives, explores new frontiers and brings all of your favorite people together? The Annual Sexological Conference hosted by Sexual Health Alliance is where sexuality leaders gather. Get your ticket to be inspired, educated, and empowered. Head over to SexualHealthAlliance.com, select the Annual Sexological Conference page and save your spot today! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 330: The Science of Kink

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September 20, 2024

Episode 329: Monogamy? In This Economy?

When romantic partners move in together, something they need to figure out is how to manage their finances. Will your money be shared or separate? And who will pay for what? These conversations can be tricky to navigate in general, but they become even more complex when you have multiple partners. In today's episode, we're going to dive into money management in polyamorous relationships. We'll explore financial considerations for poly folks, the financial benefits of being polyamorous, and more. I am joined once again by Laura Boyle, author of the new book Monogamy? In this Economy? Sue runs a blog called Ready for Polyamory. Her first book titled, Ready for Polyamory: A Pragmatic Guide to Consensual Non-Monogamy, was released in 2021. Some of the specific questions we discuss include:

Why are more and more people (including monogamous couples) keeping their finances separate today?
What are the most common financial arrangements that polyamorous people make?
How can poly folks successfully navigate conflicts around money?
How do polyamorous people manage money when partners have drastically different incomes, expenses, and debts?
What are some of the financial advantages to having multiple partners?

You can learn more about Laura and her work by visiting her website. You can also follow her on the socials @readyforpolyamory. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 329: Monogamy? In This Economy?

00:00 / 29:54

September 17, 2024

Episode 328: Tips For Living With Multiple Partners

If you've never lived with multiple partners before, figuring out how to navigate this kind of situation can pose some challenges. For example, how do you determine where everyone will sleep? How do you navigate things like personal space, chores, and scheduling conflicts? In today's show, we’re going to discuss practical tips on cultivating happy and harmonious living arrangements for polyamorous individuals. My guest is Laura Boyle, author of the new book Monogamy? In this Economy? Sue runs a blog called Ready for Polyamory. Her first book titled, Ready for Polyamory: A Pragmatic Guide to Consensual Non-Monogamy, was released in 2021. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What are the most common living arrangements for polyamorous folks?
How can poly people navigate issues like leases, mortgages, and even biases from landlords that might make it difficult to live with more than one partner?
How can "new relationship energy" complicate living situations?
What are the most common conflicts that arise when a new partner moves in?

You can learn more about Laura and her work by visiting her website. You can also follow her on the socials @readyforpolyamory. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Are you looking for a space that celebrates diverse perspectives, explores new frontiers and brings all of your favorite people together? The Annual Sexological Conference hosted by Sexual Health Alliance is where sexuality leaders gather. Get your ticket to be inspired, educated, and empowered. Head over to SexualHealthAlliance.com, select the Annual Sexological Conference page and save your spot today! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 328: Tips For Living With Multiple Partners

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September 13, 2024

Episode 327: Sex Tips for Men

We discussed sex tips for women in the previous episode, so today we have some tips for the guys. Some of the topics we'll discuss include how to have stronger erections, what you need to know if you're concerned about your penis size, as well as how to increase sexual pleasure. We’re also going to discuss common sexual concerns men have and how to address them. I am joined once again by Dr. Rena Malik, a board-certified urologist and sexuality educator. With over 300 million views and 2 million subscribers, her YouTube channel @RenaMalikMD has become a go-to destination for frank, evidence-based discussions of taboo topics. With a prolific portfolio boasting over 80 peer-reviewed publications, she has contributed to advancement and innovation in the field of urology. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

If you experience delayed or absent orgasm during partnered sex, what can you do about this?
What should you do if you find that condoms interfere with pleasure and sensation?
What can you do if you want to have stronger and firmer erections?
Are there any reliable ways to boost seminal volume?
Is there anything that actually works in terms of increasing penis size?

You can check out Rena's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 327: Sex Tips for Men

00:00 / 32:25

September 10, 2024

Episode 326: Sex Tips For Women

Female sexual pleasure is a topic that is not often covered in traditional sex education. In fact, it’s extraordinarily rare for the word “clitoris” to even be mentioned in sex ed! The unfortunate result is that many women (and their partners) never learn the information they really need to know. In today's show, we're diving into the sex ed you never got in school and discussing key facts about women’s sexual health and pleasure. My guest is Dr. Rena Malik, a board-certified urologist and sexuality educator. With over 300 million views and 2 million subscribers, her YouTube channel @RenaMalikMD has become a go-to destination for frank, evidence-based discussions of taboo topics. With a prolific portfolio boasting over 80 peer-reviewed publications, she has contributed to advancement and innovation in the field of urology. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What are some ways of making intercourse more pleasurable for women?
How do you deal with a problem like sexual pain, and what are some common solutions for it?
What can women do if they're having trouble orgasming?
What should women who are concerned with vaginal taste and smell know?
What can you do to prevent vaginal infections?

You can check out Rena's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Are you looking for a space that celebrates diverse perspectives, explores new frontiers and brings all of your favorite people together? The Annual Sexological Conference hosted by Sexual Health Alliance is where sexuality leaders gather. Get your ticket to be inspired, educated, and empowered. Head over to SexualHealthAlliance.com, select the Annual Sexological Conference page and save your spot today! Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Head over to paired.com/justin to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 326: Sex Tips For Women

00:00 / 33:20

September 6, 2024

Episode 325: Sex on Trial – Tales of an Expert Witness

Sex educators and researchers are often called upon to serve as expert witnesses in legal proceedings. This is particularly true in cases that center around kink or BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and sexual or gender minorities. The job of the experts is to help judges and juries better understand the sexual issues at hand. In today's show, I’m going to interview a colleague who has extensive experience serving as an expert witness. We’re going to talk about the some of the cases she's been a part of, what the experience is like, and more. My guest is Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. Dr. Eli holds a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT. She has published four books, over 30 peer-reviewed journal articles and chapters, and is currently editing a series of books on relationship and sexual diversity. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

How do you decide which legal cases to get involved in?
What are some reasons why you might not take a particular case?
What kinds of legal issues come up for non-monogamous individuals that would require an expert witness?
What are some of the legal issues that come up in the context of kink and BDSM?
Given that consent is not a valid legal defense for injuries that arise during sex, what do kinky folks need to know with respect to avoiding potential legal peril?

You can visit Dr. Eli's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 325: Sex on Trial - Tales of an Expert Witness

00:00 / 49:53

September 3, 2024

Episode 324: How To Get What You Want In Bed

A lot of us aren’t getting what we really want in bed. For example, there might be certain positions, activities, or techniques that you prefer or enjoy, but you aren't quite sure how to ask for them. So in today’s show, we're going to talk about how to get more of what you want. Some of the topics we’ll explore include practical tips for sharing your sexual desires, tips for introducing a kink or fetish into a relationship, as well as tips for normalizing conversations about sex in general. I am joined once again by Dr. Elisabeth Gordon. She is a board-certified psychiatrist who specializes in sexual health. She maintains a New York City based private practice and is also an educator, speaker, researcher, and writer dedicated to advancing sexual health. She has taught at multiple academic institutions around the world, and is a frequent commentator on sexual health topics in the popular media. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

How do you go about uncovering your sexual likes and dislikes in the first place?
When is the right time to talk to your partner about trying something new in the bedroom?
What are some tips for communicating about kinks with a new partner?
What should you do when you and your partner have different sexual fantasies and desires?
How can you encourage a partner to share their sexual wants with you?

You can check out Elisabeth's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 324: How To Get What You Want In Bed

00:00 / 32:43

August 30, 2024

Episode 323: The Most Common Sex Fights, And How To Solve Them

Sexual conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships. It’s virtually impossible for partners to always be erotically in synch with one another at all times over the course of many years together. That's why everyone fights about sex from time to time. In today’s show, we’re going to explore the most common sexual conflicts that arise in long-term relationships, as well as practical tips on how to solve them. My guest is Dr. Elisabeth Gordon. She is a board-certified psychiatrist who specializes in sexual health. She maintains a New York City based private practice and is also an educator, speaker, researcher, and writer dedicated to advancing sexual health. She has taught at multiple academic institutions around the world, and is a frequent commentator on sexual health topics in the popular media. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What's the most common sex fight?
What should you do when one partner wants more sex than the other?
How do you tell your partner that you want them to initiate sex more often?
What are some ways to tell your partner that the sex you're having isn't meeting your needs?
How do you deal with a selfish lover?
What should you do when masturbation and/or porn use become conflict areas in a relationship?

You can check out Elisabeth's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Head over to paired.com/justin to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 323: The Most Common Sex Fights, And How To Solve Them

00:00 / 34:03

August 27, 2024

Episode 322: Why Bisexuality Is On The Rise

Today, more people identify as LGBTQ+ than ever before. However, this is largely due to a big increase in the number of persons identifying as bisexual. So in this episode, we're going to dive into a recent study published in The Journal of Sex Research that investigates the rise in bisexuality over time. We'll discuss different ways of defining and measuring bisexuality, why women seem more likely to be bisexual than men, and much more. My guest is Martin Monto, a Professor of Sociology at University of Portland specializing in the intersection between gender, sexuality, and public health, with an additional focus on society's impact on the natural environment. Monto has an extensive publication record focusing on social aspects of sexuality and the sex industry, including notable publications on sex buyers, webcam users, "hooking up," and bisexuality. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What are some of the different ways that scientists have defined bisexuality?
How many people today identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual—and how have these numbers changed over time?
With the rise in bisexual identification, has there also been a rise in bisexual behavior?
How do rates of bisexuality differ for older versus younger adults?
Why might more women identify as bisexual than men?

You can connect with Martin here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 322: Why Bisexuality Is On The Rise

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August 23, 2024

Episode 321: Penis Problems, And How To Fix Them

The penis doesn’t always do what you want it to do. For example, sometimes you might want an erection but can’t get one, or maybe you'll reach orgasm faster than you'd like. These things happen. But when does a penis problem cross the line into becoming a sexual difficulty in need of treatment? That’s what we’re going to be exploring today. We’re going to talk about common male sexual health issues, including how they are clinically defined and treated, as well as tips for maintaining penile health as you age. I am joined once again by Melissa Hadley Barrett. Melissa is a nurse practitioner and sexologist, and the founder of Restorative Sexual Health Clinic and Restore Men’s Intimate Health. She is also co-founder of The Penis Project Podcast. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What is Peyronie's disease, and how would someone know if they had it?
What "counts" as having premature ejaculation?
How can men last longer in bed?
What's the difference between a sexual dysfunction and a sexual disappointment?
What are some different ways of dealing with erectile dysfunction?

You can check out Melissa's website and YouTube channel to learn more. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 321: Penis Problems, And How To Fix Them

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August 20, 2024

Episode 320: What You Don’t Know About The Penis

How much do you know about the penis? You may think you already know everything there is to know, but you probably don’t. That’s why today’s episode is going to dive into what you don’t know about the penis. Some of the topics we’re going to cover include the immense variability that exists in penile sensitivity and sensation, as well as what we know about multiple orgasms in men. My guest today is Melissa Hadley Barrett. Melissa is a nurse practitioner and sexologist, and the founder of Restorative Sexual Health Clinic and Restore Men’s Intimate Health. She is also co-founder of The Penis Project Podcast. Some of the questions we explore in this episode include:

What is the average penis size?
Why is flaccid penis size not necessarily a reliable predictor of erect size?
If there aren't any bones in the penis, can you still break or fracture an erection?
What are the benefits of using vibrators for men's sexual health and function?
How common is it for men to experience erectile dysfunction?

You can check out Melissa's website and YouTube channel to learn more. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 320: What You Don't Know About The Penis

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August 16, 2024

Episode 319: The Bogus BDSM Legal Defense

Was it consensual kink or sexual abuse? This question is at the heart of a growing number of legal cases. Unfortunately, people sometimes try to claim consensual kink as a cover for sexual violence, a trend my guest today refers to as "the bogus BDSM defense." In this show, we're going to dive into a few recent cases where the bogus BDSM defense has been deployed, as well as the signs that can help us to distinguish between consensual kink and sexual violence. I am joined once again by Andrea Zanin, author of the new book Post-Nonmonogamy and Beyond. They are also co-author of the new edition of the book More than Two. Andrea blogs at sexgeek.wordpress.com, and has authored a book chapter on the bogus BDSM defense. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What does the "bogus BDSM defense" look like?
Is this defense ever successful in terms of avoiding conviction or leading to a reduced sentence?
How does the bogus BDSM defense intersect with race and respectability politics?
How can we prevent people from using claims of consensual kink as a cover for sexual violence?

You can check out Andrea's website to read more of their work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 319: The Bogus BDSM Legal Defense

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August 13, 2024

Episode 318: What Comes After Nonmonogamy?

When people become nonmonogamous, they don't always stay nonmonogamous for life. Sometimes people decide to take a temporary break from it. Other times, people stop practicing it altogether because it's just not what they want or need anymore. Maybe they only want to pursue one relationship right now, or perhaps they just want to be single. So what does a post nonmonogamous life look like? That's what we're going to be talking about in this episode. My guest today is Andrea Zanin, author of the new book Post-Nonmonogamy and Beyond. They are also co-author of the new edition of the book More than Two. Andrea blogs at sexgeek.wordpress.com, where they created the 10 Rules for Happy Nonmonogamy and coined the term “polynormativity.” Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What does post nonmonogamy look like?
What are the main reasons people become post-nonmonogamous?
Is post-nonmonogamy a temporary or permanent state?
In what ways can post-nonmonogamy be rewarding? In what ways it is challenging?

You can check out Andrea's website to read more of their work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Episode 318: What Comes After Nonmonogamy?

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August 9, 2024

Episode 317: The Psychology of Consensual Non-Consent Fantasies

A common theme in many people’s sexual fantasies is being "forced" to have sex. In the world of kink, this is widely known as consensual non-consent (CNC). So why is this such a popular sexual interest? In today’s show, we’re going to explore the psychology behind it. We’re also going to delve into some of the political aspects of CNC fantasies and discuss how the growing emphasis on affirmative and enthusiastic consent might paradoxically be making these fantasies more popular than ever. I am joined once again by Tina Horn, author of the new book Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink. This book is based on her long-running podcast of the same name. Tina is also a comic book writer and host of the Wondery phone sex podcast titled Operator. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What does a CNC fantasy look like?
What are some reasons people might be into CNC?
What is the role of fear in sexual arousal?
Why do people often struggle with feelings of shame around CNC fantasies, and how can they come to terms with it?

You can visit Tina's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 317: The Psychology of Consensual Non-Consent Fantasies

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August 6, 2024

Episode 316: Why Are People Into That? The Truth About Fetishes

People have the potential to develop fetishes for virtually anything. If you can think of it, somebody probably has a fetish for it! However, fetishes remain among the most misunderstood and stigmatized sexual interests. So in today’s show, we’re going to dive into the world of fetishes and dispel some common misconceptions about them. We'll also discuss a new way of thinking about fetishes, as well as tips for how to communicate about fetish interests with a partner. My guest is Tina Horn, author of the new book Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink. This book is based on her long-running podcast of the same name. Tina is also a comic book writer and host of the Wondery phone sex podcast titled Operator. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What is the advantage of thinking about fetishes as "something I have a taste for?"
Where do fetishes come from?
How important is it to know where fetishes come from? Does their origin really matter?
Does having a fetish necessarily involve an exclusive attraction to a specific object?
How can people incorporate fetishes into their sex lives in a healthy way?

You can visit Tina's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 316: Why Are People Into That? The Truth About Fetishes

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August 2, 2024

Episode 315: My Partner Has an STI. What Do I Do?

Imagine for a moment that your partner told you they had a sexually transmitted infection. What should (and shouldn’t) you say or do in that situation? That’s what we’re going to be talking about in this episode: tips for navigating a partner’s STI disclosure. Some of the topics we’ll explore include tips for keeping the conversation productive and not perpetuating STI stigma, how to manage a relationship where one partner has an STI and the other doesn't, and what it means when someone in a long-term relationship suddenly tests positive for an STI. I am joined once again Dr. Kayley McMahan, a sexual health scholar and educator. She serves as the Relationship and Sexual Violence Prevention Coordinator at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville, where she also teaches an undergraduate Human Sexuality class. Kayley recently co-authored a comprehensive review article in the Journal of Sex Research focused on STI disclosure. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

When a parter discloses an STI, how do you keep the conversation positive and productive?
How do you manage a herpes, HPV, or HIV infection in dating and relationships?
Does a partner suddenly testing positive for an STI necessarily mean they were cheating?
Where can people go to learn more about managing and treating STIs?

You can find out more about Kayley here and connect with her on LinkedIn here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 315: My Partner Has an STI. What Do I Do?

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July 30, 2024

Episode 314: How To Tell Your Partner You Have An STI

A lot of people find it hard to talk to their partners about sex in general. But discussing sexually transmitted infections (STIs) specifically can be even more challenging. It is such a fraught topic that many people who have STIs don't even tell their partners. That's why I've put together a two-part series for you on STI disclosure. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss how to tell your partner you have an STI. In the next episode, we’re going to explore what to do when your partner tells you they have an STI. My guest today is Dr. Kayley McMahan, a sexual health scholar and educator. She serves as the Relationship and Sexual Violence Prevention Coordinator at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville, where she also teaches an undergraduate Human Sexuality class. Kayley recently co-authored a comprehensive review article in the Journal of Sex Research focused on STI disclosure. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

At any given point in time, how many people have an STI?
How many people who have an STI actually disclose this information?
What are the main reasons people with STIs don't tell their partners about their status?
When is the right time to tell a partner that you have an STI?
What are some strategies for bringing up the subject of STIs with a partner?

You can find out more about Kayley here and connect with her on LinkedIn here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Head over to paired.com/justin to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 314: How To Tell Your Partner You Have An STI

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July 26, 2024

Episode 313: Ashley Madison – Sex, Lies, and Scandal

“Life is short, have an affair.” That’s the tagline of Ashley Madison, the infamous online dating service that caters to married people who are looking to commit infidelity. Ever since its launch in 2002, it has been the subject of endless controversy, culminating in a widely reported data breech in 2015. A Netflix documentary series titled Ashley Madison: Sex, Lies, and Scandal recently premiered and it is fascinating! In today's show we’re going to dive into this series and talk all about infidelity, including why so many people cheat in the first place. I am joined once again by Ashley Weller (who bears no relation to Ashley Madison). She is a Human Sexuality and Health Psychology Professor at Chapman University in Southern California. She also has a podcast called What's your Position that tackles issues surrounding sexuality, relationships, life, and love from a comedic yet educational point of view. Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How do men's and women's reasons for infidelity differ?
Why are so many people willing to risk everything in order to have an affair?
What impact did the Ashley Madison hack have on the company and its users?
Why does Ashley Madison seem more popular than ever despite the hack that destroyed so many people's lives?

You can find Ashley on Instagram and check out more of her work by visiting her Linktree. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 313: Ashley Madison - Sex, Lies, and Scandal

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July 23, 2024

Episode 312: Why MILFs Are More Popular Than Ever

MILFs are having a moment. Sexy moms have been a fixture in the popular media for decades, but they’ve never been more popular than they are now. So what’s behind the appeal of the MILF? And is all of the attention they’re receiving objectifying or empowering to women? Today, we’re going to trace the history of hot moms in the popular media and explore the rise of the MILF. We’re also going to dive into season two of the popular dumpster fire of a television series known as MILF Manor (for a recap of season one, see episodes 223 and 224). My guest is Ashley Weller, a Human Sexuality and Health Psychology Professor at Chapman University in Southern California. She also has a podcast called What's your Position which tackles issues surrounding sexuality, relationships, life, and love from a comedic yet educational point of view. Some of the specific topics we cover in this episode include:

When did our cultural fascination with hot moms begin?
What are the most common critiques of MILF portrayals in the media?
How are broader changes in society and the social structure related to the rise in MILF popularity?
How is season 2 of MILF Manor different from the first?
How is MILF Manor changing the conversation about MILFs?

You can find Ashley on Instagram and check out more of her work by visiting her Linktree. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 312: Why MILFs Are More Popular Than Ever

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July 19, 2024

Episode 311: The Power of Touch in Relationships

Physical intimacy is one of the keys to maintaining healthy and satisfying relationships. But I’m not just talking about sex. Non-sexual physical intimacy is just as important, if not more so! In today’s show, we’re going to explore why touch is so powerful and tips for introducing more touch into your relationships. We’ll also discuss why, paradoxically, intimate partners often retreat from touch at the times they need it the most—and how to deal with this. I am joined once again by Chris Maxwell Rose and Charlotte Mia Rose, the co-creators of PleasureMechanics.com. They have devoted their lives to generating online resources to support folks in cultivating more erotic pleasure, joy, and connection. They also run a podcast called Speaking of Sex with the Pleasure Mechanics. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

Why do we need touch, and why are so many of us "touch-starved?"
How can we open the door to intimate touch when we feel stressed?
How can lovers experience more affection and physical intimacy in their relationships?
What are some things that people can do to become better at both giving and receiving touch?

To learn more, sign up for the Pleasure Mechanics Erotic Touch Mastery course. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 311: The Power of Touch in Relationships

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July 16, 2024

Episode 310: Tips and Tricks for Better Oral Sex

Most people say that they find oral sex to be a pleasurable activity, but that doesn’t mean that people always enjoy giving or receiving it. A quick search on social media reveals countless posts from people reporting on bad experiences with oral sex, so let's talk about how to have better oral. In today’s show, we’re going to explore tips and techniques for amazing oral sex. We’ll also discuss what to do if you find yourself getting bored giving oral sex, how to make sixty-nining fun, and so much more. My guests today are Chris Maxwell Rose and Charlotte Mia Rose, the co-creators of PleasureMechanics.com. They have devoted their lives to generating online resources to support folks in cultivating more erotic pleasure, joy, and connection. They also run a podcast called Speaking of Sex with the Pleasure Mechanics. Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

Why is the idea that there's just one perfect recipe for oral sex a myth?
How do you deal with common roadblocks that interfere with your ability to enjoy performing oral sex, such as boredom or discomfort?
What are some new positions or approaches that can elevate your oral experiences?
What should you do if oral sex feels like it has become a duty or obligation instead of something you love to do?
What are the essential factors that make oral sex great?

To learn more, sign up for the Pleasure Mechanics Oral Sex Mastery course. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 310: Tips and Tricks for Better Oral Sex

00:00 / 38:11

July 12, 2024

Episode 309: What Happens In The Brain During An Orgasm? (Essential Listen)

Did you know that July 31 is National Orgasm Day? That’s right—there’s actually a holiday dedicated to the big O! Unfortunately, we don’t get the day off of work, but we're going to celebrate anyway. In commemoration of National Orgasm Day’s impending arrival, we’re going to be talking all about orgasms today. In this show, we’re going to revisit one of my favorite conversations on the topic: my interview with Dr. Barry Komisaruk which originally aired back in 2022. Barry is a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at Rutgers University-Newark. He has published more than 180 research articles and has co-authored and edited five books, including “The Science of Orgasm,” which has been published in 7 languages. Some of the topics we explore include:

How is an orgasm defined scientifically?
What's really happening in the brain during an orgasm?
Do orgasms feel the same or different across genders?
Why do some people experience orgasms from nipple or other non-genital stimulation?
Can you teach yourself to have multiple orgasms?

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 309: What Happens In The Brain During An Orgasm? (Essential Listen)

00:00 / 24:08

July 9, 2024

Episode 308: Sex Ed on Social Media – The Good, Bad, and Ugly

Social media is increasingly where people are turning in order to learn about sexual health, from dealing with sex problems to coping with infertility. But is it giving us accurate information? Not so much. In today’s show, we’re going to tackle sexual health misinformation on TikTok and Instagram. We’re going to dive into what the science really says about popular sexual health claims on social media and talk about how to use these platforms in a more mindful way. I am joined once again by Dr. Justin Dubin, a Urologist who specializes in men's health at Memorial Healthcare System in South Florida. Dr. Dubin is passionate about men’s health and education and is co-host of the podcast Man Up: A Doctor’s Guide to Men’s Health. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

How can social media be helpful (and harmful) to our sexual health?
Why do the most popular social media posts often contain the least accurate information?
What are some common things people get wrong about infertility and sexual dysfunction on social media?
What is "semen retention" and why is there so much bogus information about it on social media?
How can we become more informed consumers of social media?

You can learn more about Dr. Dubin's work here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 308: Sex Ed on Social Media - The Good, Bad, and Ugly

00:00 / 40:09

July 5, 2024

Episode 307: Testosterone Myth Versus Fact

A growing number of men seem to be in a panic about their testosterone levels. Social media platforms are full of posts from guys who are convinced that they don’t have enough of this hormone in their bodies and that their sex and dating lives are suffering because of it. The result is that more and more men are seeking to boost their testosterone, and companies are eager to cash in on this by selling hormone supplements. But do these guys really have low testosterone in the first place? Are some of them pushing their hormones to dangerous levels? Today’s show is all about what men need to know about testosterone. My guest is Dr. Justin Dubin, a Urologist who specializes in men's health at Memorial Healthcare System in South Florida. Dr. Dubin is passionate about men’s health and education with the goal of improving the lives of men and their partners. He co-hosts the podcast Man Up: A Doctor’s Guide to Men’s Health. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What's fueling all of this anxiety over testosterone levels in men?
What percentage of men actually have low testosterone?
Are there any risks of having too much testosterone in the body?
How can men maintain healthy testosterone levels as they age?
Is there any truth to the claim that abstaining from masturbation boosts testosterone?

You can find more about Dr. Dubin's work here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 307: Testosterone Myth Versus Fact

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July 2, 2024

Episode 306: Is It Normal To Fall Asleep During Sex? (Listener Questions)

For today's show, we're diving into more listener questions! I’m going to answer two questions that popped up in my podcast voicemail that I thought were really interesting. The first deals with falling asleep during sex and/or foreplay. Is that normal? And what are the reasons why that might happen? The second question involves whether premature orgasm is something that only men can experience, or if it can happen to women as well. So what does the research say on it? How many women experience this, and is there anything they can do if it's interfering with their pleasure? Let's talk about it! Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. Make sure to check out our previous episode where we respond to listener questions as well, which you can find here. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 306: Is It Normal To Fall Asleep During Sex? (Listener Questions)

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June 28, 2024

Episode 305: Mastering the Art of Mindful Dating

Stuck in a dating rut? It might be time for a new approach! In today’s show, we’re going to learn how to master the art of mindful dating, which involves taking a more intentional approach to relationship development. We’re going to explore the six pillars of mindful dating and how to put them into practice. We will also discuss tips for cultivating deeper connections and ways to increase your chances of finding lasting happiness. I am joined once again by Marie Thouin, PhD, a dating and relationship coach and author of the new book What Is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships. Marie is the founder of Love InSight, a mindful dating and relationship coaching practice. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What does it mean to engage in mindful dating?
Why is it important to clarify your "dating vision" when looking to find a partner?
How do you build an empowering self-concept, and why is this important to do when dating?
When using dating apps, what does "mindful swiping" look like?
How can you learn to communicate in order to connect?

You can check out Marie's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Head over to paired.com/justin to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. ***

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Episode 305: Mastering the Art of Mindful Dating

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June 25, 2024

Episode 304: What Is Compersion?

When you take pleasure in your partner's pleasure or happiness, this is known as compersion. It's a form of positive empathy that many people in non-monogamous relationships experience. However, some people seem to have an easier time feeling compersion than others. So can it be learned? And should compersion always be a goal in non-monogamy? Let's talk about it! My guest is Marie Thouin, PhD, a dating and relationship coach and author of the new book: What Is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships. Marie is the founder of Love InSight, a mindful dating and relationship coaching practice where she supports people of all backgrounds and relational orientations to create intentional and vibrant love lives. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

Why does compersion seem to come easier to some people?
Does our ability to experience compersion change with age?
Can you learn how to feel compersion if you've never felt it before?
What are some different approaches to learning compersion?

You can check out Marie's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 304: What Is Compersion?

00:00 / 31:58

June 21, 2024

Episode 303: Common Things We Get Wrong About Sex (Essential Listen)

It turns out that many of the things we think we know about sex aren't entirely true. So let's set the record straight and explore what we do and don't know about sex and the human body. For today's show, we're revisiting one of my favorite conversations of all time, my interview with Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton that originally aired back in episode 53. Dr. Hamilton is an associate professor of Psychology at Mount Allison University in Sackville and host of the podcast “Do We Know Things?” Some of the topics we explore include:

What do we actually know about the G-spot?
Do we know what the average penis size really is?
Does peeing after sex actually prevent UTIs?
Does pubic hair grooming affect STI risk?
Can men have multiple orgasms too?

To learn more about Lisa Dawn and her work, visit doweknowthings.com. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 303: Common Things We Get Wrong About Sex (Essential Listen)

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June 18, 2024

Episode 302: The Psychology Behind Attraction To Monsters

From the vampires and werewolves in Twilight to Bigfoot to the beast from Beauty and the Beast, it turns out that a lot of people are turned on by the idea of getting it on with a monster. But why is that? Where do these attractions come from in the first place? In this episode, we’re going to explore the rich psychology that helps to explain why monstrous, mythical, and scary creatures can sometimes become turn-ons. I am joined once again by Ella Gallego, a researcher, writer, and the founder of the Monstrous Desire Study. The study examines the cultural history of erotic monsters around the globe based on research data from over 2,200 respondents. Ella was my guest in the previous episode, in which we explored people's biggest monster crushes. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What physical or other attributes of monsters do people find arousing?
To what extent do monster fantasies overlap with interest in kink and BDSM?
What is the role of fear in sexual arousal?
Why do monster fantasies seem to be particularly appealing to women and LGBTQ+ folks?
How important is it for us to understand where our sexual fantasies come from?

You can check out Ella's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 302: The Psychology Behind Attraction To Monsters

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June 14, 2024

Episode 301: Monsters With Serious Sex Appeal

When I studied the sex fantasies of thousands of Americans for my book Tell Me What You Want, I found that 33% of adults had fantasized about a monster or mythical creature before, such as a vampire, werewolf, or demon. Clearly, some people find monsters to be seriously sexy. So why is that? I have a two-part series for you on monstrous desire. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about who people’s biggest monster crushes are and explore the history of sexy monsters in the media. In the next episode, we’re going to get into the psychology behind attraction to monsters. My guest is Ella Gallego, a researcher, writer, and the founder of the Monstrous Desire Study. The study examines the cultural history of erotic monsters around the globe and presents research data from over 2,200 respondents. Some of the topics we discuss include:

What does it mean to be a "monster f*cker?"
How long have people been attracted to monsters?
Which specific monsters are people into?
Why are monsters often depicted in the media in erotic ways?

You can check out Ella's website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 301: Monsters With Serious Sex Appeal

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June 11, 2024

Episode 300: Let’s Talk About Penis Pumps!

Sex toys and sexual wellness products for men have long been stigmatized, but it's time to change that. There are numerous products on the market that have the potential to help men improve their sexual health and performance, and that includes penis pumps! In today's episode, we're going to do a deep dive into these devices. We'll talk about how penis pumps can help in terms of improving sexual self-confidence and erectile health, how to use them correctly and safely, whether they can make your penis bigger, and more. I am joined once again by Dr. Lance Frank, a pelvic health physical therapist who runs Flex PT ATL in Midtown, Atlanta. His practice focuses on providing services to patients managing sexual health and intimacy concerns, pelvic pain, and urinary or bowel dysfunction. He also talks extensively about men’s pelvic health on social media, and you can follow him at @lanceinyourpants. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What is a penis pump anyway, and how does it work?
What are the benefits of using these devices?
Compared to other erectile enhancers (e.g., medications, cock rings), what are the advantages of a pump?
What are best practices for using a penis pump?
What should someone consider when purchasing a pump?

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Episode 300: Let's Talk About Penis Pumps!

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June 7, 2024

Episode 299: Let’s Talk With a Pelvic Doc

In recent years, the pelvic floor is a topic that has received increased attention in the popular media. However, discussions of pelvic health tend to focus mostly on women. Male pelvic health is important for us to talk about, too, so that’s what we're going to be discussing today. In this show, we're going to speak with a pelvic doc for the lowdown on why we need to pay attention to male pelvic health. We're also going to do a deep dive into Kegel exercises for men. My guest is Dr. Lance Frank, a pelvic health physical therapist who runs Flex PT ATL in Midtown, Atlanta. His practice focuses on providing services to patients managing sexual health and intimacy concerns, pelvic pain, and urinary or bowel dysfunction. He also talks extensively about men’s pelvic health on social media, and you can follow him at @lanceinyourpants. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What is a pelvic health physical therapist?
What's so important about male pelvic health?
What are the potential benefits (and risks) of Kegel exercises for men?
How do you know whether Kegel exercises are right for you?
How do men need to think differently about their pelvic health?

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 299: Let's Talk With a Pelvic Doc

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June 4, 2024

Episode 298: The Keys To Good Sex, According To A Sex Therapist

When it comes to having sex, there are a lot of "rules" that what we're supposed to follow. But many of those rules contradict one another, making it hard to know what to do. In today's show, we're going to discuss whether we should even be following the "rules" of sex in the first place. We’re also going to explore how to increase your sexual self-understanding, as well as tips for having better sex. I am joined once again by Todd Baratz, a licensed psychotherapist and sex therapist with an innovative approach to mental health and relationships. He runs the popular social media account @yourdiagnonsense and is author of the new book How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What are the six keys to good sex?
What does it mean to approach sex as a performance, and how can we avoid this?
Why is it actually a good thing to be a little bit selfish when it comes to sex?
How can we learn to better assert our sexual desires and communicate boundaries?

You can visit Todd's website to learn more about him and his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 298: The Keys To Good Sex, According To A Sex Therapist

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May 31, 2024

Episode 297: How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind

A lot of the relationship advice littering every corner of the internet tries to distill love into a simple set of “rules." It'd be nice if things were that easy, but they aren't! It's time to ditch the so-called “rules” of relationships because they might be getting in the way of our ability to find love. In today's show, we're going to talk about how to approach relationships in a way that’s more likely to lead to lasting happiness, and how we can do it without losing our minds. My guest is Todd Baratz, a licensed psychotherapist and sex therapist with an innovative approach to mental health and relationships. He runs the popular social media account @yourdiagnonsense and is author of the new book How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

What are some examples of really bad relationship advice?
When is relationship self-help actually helpful, and when is if harmful?
Are our expectations for relationships today unrealistic?
Are there any universal "rules" for healthy relationships?

You can visit Todd's website to learn more about him and his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 297: How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind

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May 28, 2024

Episode 296: How to Have Pleasurable Anal Sex

Anal sex (and how to make it pleasurable) is one of those topics that people usually have to figure out all on their own. So think of today's episode as the all-you-need-to-know guide to good anal sex. Some of the topics we’ll explore include what you need to know about anal douching, how to choose the right lube, tips for preparing and relaxing so that you can experience pleasure instead of pain, and more. I am joined once again by Dr. Evan Goldstein, who is the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a leading private practice specializing in an elite standard of sexual health and wellness care for the gay community. He is also co-founder of the sexual wellness brand Future Method and author of the new book Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

How can paying attention to diet and nutrition help pave the way for more pleasurable anal sex?
What do people need to know about anal douching in order to optimize health and pleasure?
Why is dilating an important part of preparation before anal sex?
What are the best kinds of lube for anal sex?
What are some good beginner tips and techniques for penetration?

You can visit Evan's website to learn more about him and his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 296: How to Have Pleasurable Anal Sex

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May 24, 2024

Episode 295: Common Myths About Anal Sex, Debunked

Anal sex is something humans have been practicing for thousands of years. However, is has long been shrouded in taboos, which has led to the proliferation of a lot of myths and misconceptions. In today's show, we'll be discussing common things people get wrong about anal sex. Some of the topics we’ll explore include the myth of anal sex as “gay sex,” whether there’s any truth to the stereotype that anal sex roles correspond to power and gender roles, and whether there’s any truth to claims that anal sex causes long-term damage to the body. My guest is Dr. Evan Goldstein, who is the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a leading private practice specializing in an elite standard of sexual health and wellness care for the gay community. He is also co-founder of the sexual wellness brand Future Method and author of the new book Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

Why is psychology an important aspect of pleasurable anal sex?
Who is having anal sex?
How risky is anal sex?
Is receptive anal sex necessarily a "submissive" activity?
What are the biggest things people get wrong about anal sex?

You can visit Evan's website to learn more about him and his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 295: Common Myths About Anal Sex, Debunked

00:00 / 32:24

May 21, 2024

Episode 294: The Science of Self-Pleasure (Essential Listen)

It's Masturbation Month, so today’s episode is going to be all about self-pleasure! The origins of Masturbation Month date back to 1995, when US Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders stated that masturbation is a natural part of human sexuality and something that should perhaps be taught in sex ed. Elders’ comments set off a political firestorm that ultimately led to her being fired. To mark her unjust dismissal, May 14 was declared National Masturbation Day, which was later expanded to include the entire month of May. For this show, we’re revisiting some of my favorite clips on the history and science of self-pleasure. My guests include Dr. Eric Sprankle, Marie Aoyama from TENGA, professor Carole Hooven, urologist Joshua Gonzalez, sleep researcher Michele Lastella, and sex therapist Emily Jamea. Some of the questions this fascinating group of folks addresses for us include:

How have views on masturbation changed over time?
What do people fantasize about when they masturbate?
Does abstaining from masturbation boost testosterone?
Can avoiding sex and masturbation actually increase athletic performance?
How can we have a healthier relationship with self-pleasure?
Can masturbation help us to fall asleep faster?

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s only FDA regulated hydropump and it provides a discreet and effective way to exercise an area of the body that's neglected in the gym. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 294: The Science of Self-Pleasure (Essential Listen)

00:00 / 31:18

May 17, 2024

Episode 293: Listener Sex and Relationship Questions, Answered

For today's show, we're diving into listener questions! I’m going to answer two questions that popped up in my podcast voicemail that I thought were really interesting. The first deals with sensory changes that happen upon reaching orgasm. It seems that some people experience temporary sensory disruptions following climax, including changes in hearing and vision. What's that all about? The second question involves what to do if you really want to have casual sex, but you seem to struggle with it because you always end up getting too attached. Is there anything you can do about that? Let's talk about it! Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 293: Listener Sex and Relationship Questions, Answered

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May 14, 2024

Episode 292: Psychology Doesn’t Know What To Do With Men Anymore

Modern psychology has a very complicated relationship with gender. Gender differences have become one of the most contentious areas in the field, and it seems like psychology isn't entirely sure what to do with men anymore. This is especially true for heterosexual men, who are often viewed through a pathological lens. So in today’s show, we’re going to dive into some controversy. Some of the topics we'll discuss include why men are often blamed for their own sexual problems, why it’s important to acknowledge gender differences in communication styles, and more. I am joined once again by Dr. Stephen Snyder, an AASECT certified sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist. Dr. Snyder is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City and author of the book LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. Some of the questions we address include:

How have the dynamics of heterosexual relationships changed over time?
Why does the field of sex therapy have such a complicated relationship with men and male sexuality?
What are some of the key differences in sexual psychology that are important for people to understand?

You can learn more about Stephen and his work on his website here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s best-selling penis pump, with over one million satisfied customers. The benefits of using Xersizer include improved erection quality, more staying power, and more intense orgasms. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 292: Psychology Doesn't Know What To Do With Men Anymore

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May 10, 2024

Episode 291: A New Way Of Thinking About Sex

A lot of sex advice boils down to one popular idea: that good sex is simply a matter of combining the right physical sensations with the right kind of mental activity. In other words, great sex is just friction plus fantasy. However, it’s more complicated than that. To have really great sex, we need to start by understanding the true nature of the sexual self. In today's show, we’re going to explore a new way of thinking about sex, as well as discuss what you really need to know when it comes to having sex that’s truly worth having. My guest is Dr. Stephen Snyder, an AASECT certified sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist. Dr. Snyder is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City and author of the book LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. Some of the questions we address in this episode include:

What's the problem with the "friction plus fantasy" narrative?
How can understanding the sexual self as "infantile" help us find inspiration in long-term sexual relationships?
What is "simmering," and what's the benefit of learning how to do it?
Why might it be bad to view sex as work?
How can you develop sexual connections that last over time?

You can learn more about Dr. Snyder and his work on his website. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 291: A New Way Of Thinking About Sex

00:00 / 29:10

May 7, 2024

Episode 290: How To Have Hot And Healthy Sex For Your Entire Life

Sex is something that evolves with us over the course of our lives. Your level of desire, the connection you have with your partner(s), and what feels good during sex can all shift quite a lot. However, despite all of these ways that sex tends to change, most of us are expecting that it will stay the same, and that’s where problems arise. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about how to adapt to and embrace sexual change so that you can have hot and healthy sex for your entire life. I am joined once again by Kate Moyle, a psychosexual and relationship therapist based in the United Kingdom. She runs the Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast, and is author of the new book The Science of Sex: Every Question About Your Sex Life Answered. Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

How can we maintain a sense of sexual curiosity over time?
What is sexual currency? Why is this concept important for understanding how to maintain a lasting sexual connection?
How can taking a pause from sex provide an opportunity to reboot and reset your sex life?
How do you build up sexual self-confidence following a breakup?
How can we prioritize and maintain lifelong sexual well-being?

You can learn more about Kate's work by visiting her website here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Xersizer is the world’s best-selling penis pump, with over one million satisfied customers. The benefits of using Xersizer include improved erection quality, more staying power, and more intense orgasms. To learn more and get a 20% discount off of your purchase, visit xersizer.com/SAP ***

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Episode 290: How To Have Hot And Healthy Sex For Your Entire Life

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May 3, 2024

Episode 289: Popular Sex Questions, Answered By A Sex Therapist

Most sexual problems don’t require intensive therapy to solve because, more often than not, the root cause is a lack of sex education. Most of us never really learned what we need to know about sex or about our own bodies, which makes it all to easy for us to think that there might be something wrong with us when there really isn’t. So in today’s episode, we’re going to be answering some of the most common questions people have about sex. My guest is Kate Moyle, a psychosexual and relationship therapist based in the United Kingdom. She runs the Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast, and is author of the new book The Science of Sex: Every Question About Your Sex Life Answered. Some of the specific questions we dive into include:

What are the most common questions that come up in sex therapy?
How do I know if I'm having "enough" sex?
What's the best time of the day to have sex?
Do aphrodisiacs really work?

You can learn more about Kate's work by visiting her website here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 289: Popular Sex Questions, Answered By A Sex Therapist

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April 30, 2024

Episode 288: What You Don’t Know About STIs (Essential Listen)

It's STI Awareness Month, so let’s take some time to brush up on our knowledge of sexually transmitted infections. You may think you already know everything there is to know, but trust me, you don’t! In today’s show, we’re going to discuss some surprising and lesser-known facts about STIs that challenge the conventional wisdom. For example, is someone who has a larger number of sexual partners necessarily more likely to have an STI than someone with fewer partners? Likewise, are things like pubic hair grooming and the rise of online dating apps affecting STI rates? For this show, we’re revisiting my conversation with Dr. Ina Park from all the way back in episode 39. She is an associate professor at the University of California San Francisco School of Medicine and author of the book Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs.

Why is it the case that having more sexual partners doesn't necessarily translate to having more STIs?
Broadly speaking, how do some of our sexual practices shape STIs?
What's the relationship between pubic hair grooming and STIs?
What are some tips for individuals who want to talk about STIs with a sexual and/or romantic partner?
How can we break down STI taboo and stigma to facilitate more open conversations on the subject?

You can learn more about Ina's work here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 288: What You Don't Know About STIs (Essential Listen)

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April 26, 2024

Episode 287: Ethical and Legal Issues in Psychedelic Therapy

In the previous episode, we talked all about how psychedelics can help in treating sexual problems. In this episode, we’re going to dive into the ethical and legal considerations of psychedelic-assisted sex therapy. For example, how does consent work when patients are under the influence of a psychedelic drug? Likewise, how do therapists maintain appropriate ethical boundaries when working with clients who are in an altered and potentially vulnerable state? I am joined once again by is Jeff Lundgren, a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and a psychedelic-assisted therapy provider. He runs a private practice based in Salt Lake City, Utah and is author of the new book "Unfolding Eros: A Journey into Psychedelic-Assisted Sex Therapy.” Some of the specific questions we address this episode include:

What kinds of safeguards do practitioners need to be thinking about in order to minimize the risk of harm when someone is undergoing psychedelic-assisted therapy?
What do people need to know about the potential side effects and health risks of psychedelic substances?
What is the current legal landscape for psychedelic-assisted sex therapy?
How do laws need to change in order to accommodate the practice of psychedelic therapy?
What should you look for in a provider, and what are some red flags to watch out for?

Check out Jeff's website to learn more about his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 287: Ethical and Legal Issues in Psychedelic Therapy

00:00 / 30:49

April 23, 2024

Episode 286: Using Psychedelics In Sex Therapy

We've long known that psychedelics have the potential to help treat various mental health issues, but researchers are starting to take notice of the potential therapeutic applications of these drugs for dealing with sexual difficulties. So in today's show, we're going to dive into the small but growing world of psychedelic-assisted sex therapy. Some of the topics we’re going to discuss include how psychedelics can put us in the right state of mind for enjoying great sex, which psychedelics have the most promising applications for treating sexual difficulties, and what psychedelic-assisted sex therapy actually looks like. My guest is Jeff Lundgren, a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and a psychedelic-assisted therapy provider. He runs a private practice based in Salt Lake City, Utah and he is author of the new book "Unfolding Eros: A Journey into Psychedelic-Assisted Sex Therapy.” Some of the specific questions we discuss include:

What is a psychedelic anyway?
How can psychedelics help create a feeling of presence during sex?
What kinds of sexual problems have the greatest potential to be helped through the use of psychedelics?
Does cannabis have the same therapeutic potential as psychedelics?
What kinds of questions should someone think about before considering psychedelic-assisted sex therapy?

Check out Jeff's website to learn more about his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 286: Using Psychedelics In Sex Therapy

00:00 / 33:13

April 19, 2024

Episode 285: Ethical Gangbangs – Filming A Group Sex Scene

The term “ethical gangbang” probably sounds like an oxymoron to a lot of folks. Can a gangbang really be ethical? Let's talk about it! In today’s show, I'm speaking with a porn director whose latest film features an ethical gangbang. Some of the topics we’ll dive into include how things like consent and safety are managed when filming a group sex scene, the difference between objectification and empowerment in adult films, and how consumers can identify ethical erotic content. I am joined once again by Erika Lust, an award-winning indie erotic filmmaker who creates sex-positive adult cinema by portraying relatable characters and realistic hot sex. Over the past 20 years, Erika has directed 6 feature films and series and over 130 short films. In 2015, Erika gave her a popular TEDx talk titled 'It’s Time for Porn to Change'. Some of the topics we discuss include:

What does the term "ethical porn" mean?
What does an "ethical gangbang" look like?
How are consent and boundaries maintained when shooting complex group scenes?
How does a scene look or feel different when it's empowering as opposed to when it's objectifying?
What should consumers look for if they want to support ethical porn?
How are growing legal restrictions on porn shaping the industry?

You can check out Erika's films here, and use the code "SEXANDPSYCH" for a 30% discount on the site's content. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 285: Ethical Gangbangs - Filming A Group Sex Scene

00:00 / 33:27

April 16, 2024

Episode 284: Sex On Screen – How Erotic Cinema Is Made

What goes on behind the scenes when porn is filmed? In today's show, I’m going to be speaking with a director who has decades of experience creating adult films. We’re going to explore how she got into the business, her approach to making erotic cinema, and what she does to ensure the comfort and safety of performers. She is a pioneer in creating ethical and feminist porn, so we’re also going to talk about how her work has changed the landscape for adult films. My guest is Erika Lust, an award-winning indie erotic filmmaker who creates sex-positive adult cinema by portraying relatable characters and realistic hot sex. Over the past 20 years, Erika has directed 6 feature films and series and over 130 short films. In 2015, Erika gave a popular TEDx talk titled 'It’s Time for Porn to Change'. Some of the topics we discuss include:

What do both Hollywood and porn get wrong when to comes to depicting sex on screen?
How is Erika's approach to making adult films different from what people might be used to seeing in porn?
What kind of reaction has ethical and feminist porn received from the broader male-dominated porn industry?
What has changed in the world of porn in the last two decades?

You can check out Erika's films here, and use the code "SEXANDPSYCH" for a 30% discount on the site's content. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 284: Sex On Screen - How Erotic Cinema Is Made

00:00 / 31:49

April 12, 2024

Episode 283: Don’t Let Your Job Ruin Your Sex Life

Do you feel like work is getting in the way of your sex life? If so, you're definitely not alone. Work can leave us tired or exhausted, heavily stressed, and highly distracted, which is a recipe for sexual problems. Maybe it’s time to set some boundaries? In today’s show, we’re going to talk all about the negative ways in which work can interfere with sex, why this happens, and how we can prevent it. We’re also going to talk about how to make sex a priority in your life so that you can harness the stress-relieving benefits of it. I am joined once again by Amanda Jepson, a Licensed Professional Counselor and ASSECT-Certified Sex Therapist. She is one of the co-founders of the non-profit Respark Foundation, a Clinical Therapist at the University of Colorado-Colorado Springs Veterans Health and Trauma Clinic, and a lecturer for the University of Colorado-Denver. Some of the specific questions we explore in this episode include:

How can work-related stress interfere with sexual desire, arousal, and function?
If you have a particularly high-stress job, what can you do to get your sex life back on track?
What does work-life balance really look like, and is it realistic to attain?
How can engaging in sex more often help us to deal with stress?
What are some ways we can prioritize sex in our lives?

To learn more about the Respark Foundation, you can click here to visit their website. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 283: Don't Let Your Job Ruin Your Sex Life

00:00 / 32:47

April 9, 2024

Episode 282: Healing And Moving Beyond Sexual Trauma

Seventy percent of adults have experienced one or more traumatic events in their lifetime, with sexual trauma being among the most common forms. There’s a popular narrative in the media that trauma fundamentally changes our bodies and brains, which can give the impression that trauma never resolves. However, there is hope. On today's show, we’re going to discuss how to heal and move beyond sexual trauma. We’ll also talk about tips for navigating relationships when one partner has a history of trauma. My guest is Amanda Jepson, a Licensed Professional Counselor and ASSECT-Certified Sex Therapist. She is one of the co-founders of the non-profit Respark Foundation, a Clinical Therapist at the University of Colorado-Colorado Springs Veterans Health and Trauma Clinic, and a lecturer for the University of Colorado-Denver. Some of the specific questions we explore in this episode include:

What does the term "sexual trauma" mean in a clinical context?
What are some of the most common impacts of sexual trauma?
How can individuals who have experienced trauma learn to reconnect with their bodies?
What kinds of treatments do sex therapists use in cases of sexual trauma?
How do you bring up the topic of trauma with a romantic partner?
How can you be a supportive partner to someone with a history of trauma?

To learn more about the Respark Foundation, you can click here to visit their website. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 282: Healing And Moving Beyond Sexual Trauma

00:00 / 32:01

April 5, 2024

Episode 281: Tips For Navigating Non-Monogamy

Interest in non-monogamy is on the rise, with nationally representative US surveys now finding that approximately one-third of American adults say their ideal relationship would be sexually open. But if you want to give this a try, what do you need to know? In today’s show, we’ll explore the questions to ask yourself before opening up, as well as common issues that arise in multi-partner relationships and how to deal with them. My guest is Shamyra Howard, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She founded On The Green Couch, where she helps people manage sexual issues, create their best relationships, and have amazing sex. She is the resident Sex and Relationship Expert on the Peacock series Couple to Throuple. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

Whether you're currently single or in a relationship, what do you need to know before you start exploring non-monogamy?
How do you set boundaries in multi-partner relationships?
What can you do if jealousy pops up?
If you're practicing polyamory, how do you know when you've reached your saturation point?
What is "new relationship energy," and how do you prevent it from becoming an issue?
What are some common red flags in poly and open relationships?

Make sure to check out Shamyra's website to learn more about her work and follow her on the socials @sexologistshamyra. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 281: Tips For Navigating Non-Monogamy

00:00 / 32:19

April 2, 2024

Episode 280: From Couple to Throuple

Most reality dating shows follow the same formula in that they're fundamentally about two people finding love and building a couple relationship. However, the new series Couple to Throuple offers a unique twist: viewers follow a group of queer, open-minded couples who are interested in expanding their relationships by bringing a third partner into the mix. This show has sparked a wide range of reactions among viewers, both positive and negative. So let's talk about it! My guest is Shamyra Howard, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She founded On The Green Couch, where she helps people manage sexual issues, create their best relationships, and have amazing sex. She is the resident Sex and Relationship Expert on the Peacock series Couple to Throuple. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

In what ways is this show different from anything else that has come before?
What is the role of a sex and relationship expert on a show like this?
What were some of the biggest issues that came up as couples explored what it might look like to be a throuple?
Does this show offer an accurate depiction of polyamory?
How can a show like Couple to Throuple contribute to broader conversations about relationship diversity and polyamory?

Make sure to check out Shamyra's website to learn more about her work and follow her on the socials @sexologistshamyra. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! MailMyMeds is an online service that allows Americans to access prescription and affordable medication delivery services. They allow men experiencing ED to be reviewed for erectile dysfunction medication prescriptions. To learn more, visit mailmymeds.com Flure Dating App: Explore & Own Your Desires - https://flure.com ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 280: From Couple to Throuple

00:00 / 35:08

March 29, 2024

Episode 279: Living With Uncontrollable Genital Arousal

Imagine that your genitals were in a constant, uncontrollable state of arousal. You might be thinking that doesn’t sound too bad, but you’d be mistaken. Persistent genital arousal disorder (PGAD) is a highly distressing condition. People who have it live with unwanted arousal that doesn't bring pleasure, and there’s almost no relief from it. This makes it difficult, if not impossible, to concentrate, work, and sleep. In this episode, we’re going to dive into what we know about PGAD, including how common it is, what causes it, and how it’s treated. I am joined once again by Sue W. Goldstein, an AASECT certified Sexuality Educator and Clinical Research Manager at San Diego Sexual Medicine. Ms. Goldstein co-authored the book When Sex Isn’t Good to provide education and empowerment to women with sexual dysfunction. Some of the questions we explore in this episode include:

What does PGAD look like in everyday life?
What kind of effects does this have on people?
How long have we known about PGAD, and how common is it?
What causes uncontrollable genital arousal?
Are there any treatments that work?

To learn more about women's sexual health issues, check out Sue's book here and visit Vella Biosciences. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 279: Living With Uncontrollable Genital Arousal

00:00 / 24:29

March 26, 2024

Episode 278: Sexual Dysfunction After Stopping Antidepressants

Antidepressants are notorious for their sexual side effects, including diminished sexual desire and difficulties with arousal and orgasm. It was long thought that these side effects were temporary; however, a growing number of people are reporting persistent sexual difficulties after discontinuing the medication, known as Post-SSRI Sexual Dysfunction (PSSD). In today's show, we’re going to discuss what we know about PSSD, including how common it is, what causes it, and what we can do about it. I am joined by Sue W. Goldstein, an AASECT certified Sexuality Educator and Clinical Research Manager at San Diego Sexual Medicine. Ms. Goldstein co-authored the book When Sex Isn’t Good to provide education and empowerment to women with sexual dysfunction. Some of the questions we explore in this episode include:

How many people experience sexual side effects from antidepressants?
What are the most common symptoms of PSSD?
Is PSSD a formal medical diagnosis?
Why is PSSD controversial?
Are there any gender differences in PSSD?
Why might SSRIs can cause long-term sexual dysfunction?

To learn more about women's sexual health issues, check out Sue's book here and visit Vella Biosciences. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals make eating better every day easy! No matter your schedule for the week, be ready with pre-prepared, chef-crafted and dietician approved meals delivered right to your door. Head to factormeals.com/sexandpsych50 and use code sexandpsych50 to get 50% off your order. Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 278: Sexual Dysfunction After Stopping Antidepressants

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March 22, 2024

Episode 277: What People Want From Relationships Today

In the not too distant past, most people followed the same relationship model and settled down into monogamous marriages pretty early in life. Today, however, people are spending more and more of their adult lives single, fewer are opting to marry at all, and those who do are waiting much longer to tie the knot. In today’s show, we’re going to delve into the modern sexual landscape and look at what people really want from relationships, including their attitudes toward casual sex, monogamy, non-monogamy, and infidelity. I am joined once again by Tina Fetner, a professor of sociology at McMaster University. She is the author of the new book Sex in Canada: The Who, Why, When, and How of Getting Down Up North. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

How much has the marriage rate changed over time?
Why are adults staying single for longer periods of time?
If most singles want relationships, why does everyone seem to think that they don’t want them?
Why are young folks increasingly concerned with telling a partner that they want to be exclusive?
How many people in relationships are practicing monogamy vs consensual non-monogamy?

Make sure to check out Tina's website to learn more and follow her on Instagram @tinafetner. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Learn to make time for what makes you happy. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/SEXANDPSYCH today to get 10% off your first month. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. ***

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Episode 277: What People Want From Relationships Today

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March 19, 2024

Episode 276: How Much Sex Are People Having?

Some of the most common sex questions I’ve received from listeners over the years include, “Am I having enough sex?” and “Am I masturbating too much?” While people are often very interested in how their sex life stacks up, the truth of the matter is that comparing yourself to other people can lead us astray because “normal” doesn’t mean just one thing when it comes to sex. In this episode, we're going to explore diversity and variability in sexual behavior frequency. My guest is Tina Fetner, a professor of sociology at McMaster University. She is the author of the new book Sex in Canada: The Who, Why, When, and How of Getting Down Up North. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

What percentage of adults engage in masturbation? How many have never done it?
How many people had sex in the last year? How often do people usually have sex?
Who has more sex: people who are single or married?
Why are there more adult virgins today than there used to be?

Make sure to check out Tina's website to learn more and follow her on Instagram @tinafetner. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! MailMyMeds is an online service that allows Americans to access prescription and affordable medication delivery services. They allow men experiencing ED to be reviewed for erectile dysfunction medication prescriptions. To learn more, visit mailmymeds.com Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Head over to paired.com/justin to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. Connect with your partner every day using Paired. A happier relationship starts here! Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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Episode 276: How Much Sex Are People Having?

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March 15, 2024

Episode 275: Masturbation Fact Versus Fiction

If you start scrolling through Instagram or TikTok, it’s only a matter of time before you’ll come across some anti-masturbation content. You’re likely to hear that masturbation is bad for your health, that it’s addictive, and that you should just say no to self-pleasure. In today’s show, we’re going to delve into what the science says about popular claims regarding the health benefits of semen retention, whether abstaining from masturbation actually boosts testosterone, whether you can really become “addicted” to masturbating, and so much more. I am joined once again by Dr. Eric Sprankle, an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and the co-director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato. He's also a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. His latest book is titled, DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

How (and why) have social media influences brought the idea of semen retention to the masses?
Are there actually any health benefits to abstaining from ejaculation?
Is an orgasm obtained from self-pleasure really any different from an orgasm obtained through partnered sex?
Can women really become "addicted" to their vibrators?
Is there an objective standard for what constitutes "too much" masturbation?

Make sure to check out Eric's website to learn more and follow him on the socials @drsprankle. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Private Internet Access VPN is the world’s most transparent VPN provider. They let you stay private online by hiding your IP address and encrypting your internet connection. Head over to PIAVPN.com/SexAndPsychology and get an 83% discount! That’s just $2.03/month and you get 4 extra months completely free.

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